Yesterday my friend came over to pluck my eyebrows. It was the highlight of my day.
Today a photographer stopped by my home to pick up magazines. Even though I looked TERRIBLE and a little embarrassed that someone I know (because of our professional work relationship) saw me without makeup and without a bra, I will most likely treasure our half hour conversation as my highlight of the day.
Three weeks ago I had major reconstructive surgery on my foot. And for the past three weeks, I haven’t been able to put weight on my foot. At all. I never realized how difficult daily tasks would be while standing on one foot. I feel like wearing coral pink and changing my name to Flamingo Kristi. It takes 2-3 times longer to do a simple task. And regular chores? Forget it.
These last few weeks have reminded of the days after having a baby.
Taking a shower? HA!
Preparing a meal? Only if you’re lucky.
Sex? Sorry, babe.
The accomplishment of the day? I brushed my teeth and changed from one set of pajamas to another.
This physical setback has reminded me how important it is to be THAT friend.
The caring one. The one who stops over with a meal. The one who bakes and delivers an extra batch of scones. The one who will run an errand. The one who comes over at 11AM to watch a chick flick with a greasy pizza because she knows you are dying for a dose of girlfriend time.
We are all busy. No doubt. But if you can, pause for a moment and think through your list of friends.
Have they had a baby recently – and by recently, I mean within the last 6 weeks, not 6 days.
Have they had a family emergency?
Have they shared on Facebook that they are stressed?
So many times we are quick to put on a happy face and show off our highlight reel on social media, but we won’t risk being vulnerable and ask for help or show the messy side of #momlife.
So be THAT friend.
Be the friend who takes initiative. Be the friend who calls (even last minute) to say, “Hey! I’ve got 15 minutes to pop over!” Stop by their home. Bonus points if you have a Starbucks or yummy sandwich in hand. (There’s not many coffee shops with delivery service, so the thought of getting a treat is heavenly!)
You may think a short visit with your friend isn’t worth it or bothersome to them, but believe me… they will most likely treasure it as the highlight of their day.
