I admit that I have never been one to make a New Year’s Resolution each year. To be honest, I have always thought them to be a bit over-rated or filled with too much pressure. Maybe I have always known I would never follow through with a grandiose declaration, like giving up chocolate (let’s be honest, I’m not a quitter) or waking up at 5 am every morning to exercise (I like sleep too much).
Last year, though, I thought I would do something a little different. Becoming a mama has changed my perspective on many things, and I also don’t have the time to do some activities like I used to. While taking care of everyone else, I realized that I have, many times, forgotten to take care of ME . I mean, we are even talking about simple things like making routine doctor’s appointments, getting my hair cut, or buying new clothes or shoes. We, mamas, always make sure the family has what they need, but are filling up our tanks, too? I wasn’t. I realized I was running on empty.
I made a resolution to myself that in order to take care of those I loved, I had to first take care of me! I was no good to others, or to myself, if I was sleep-deprived, sick, or just plain wore out. I actually went to some doctor appointments throughout the year that I needed to and wanted to. I had a few afternoons off of work, and I didn’t pick my kiddo up early from daycare (and, I didn’t feel guilty about it). Even if I went solo, I got a pedicure or got my hair done. It was awesome!
I also learned how to say, ‘no’, to requests and invitations. This didn’t always make others happy, but it’s definitely easy to get yourself, and your family overbooked for activities. Often times, I don’t like to make anyone upset so I am commonly the ‘yes girl’, but I had to break that cycle. I am learning that it’s okay to say ‘no’ sometimes, and you feel so much better and less stressed in the end.
So, you could say that this past year has been ‘the year of me’, and I believe I am a better person to myself and to my family because of it. As we head into another new year, I find that I am not finished with this resolution. You could say it’s a work in-progress; therefore, I’m happily declaring it again.
Would you like to join me?